Monday, May 3, 2010

May 3, 2010

When a prehistoric man wanted a woman he smacked her unconscious on the head with a club then took her to his cave and they lived there ever after. Happiness was invented (not discovered!) hundreds of thousands of years later.

This unattractive, yet honest courting method didn't change much in time except words and deeds replaced the club, and condos replaced the caves.

One might think today that the club was the better method.

Anyway, today men meet women or women meet men in various places. And, I only talk about the way it is here in our culture and not in other parts of the world.

There are school loves, there are blind dates, there are mutual friends, there are work places, there are bars and there are accidental meetings that lead to relationships.

Besides these there are countless other ways one might meet his or her future mate and reality shows don't count.

But meeting the other party is only the first step. To keep the relationship going is the hardest part. That is where both halves have to work at it, show some interest and also show some commitment.

Some people meet up only for fun and for a short term involvement some meet with a serious and possibly lifelong commitment in mind. The term lifelong today has a different meaning than the word itself implies.

But no matter what no two people are alike. I can not see a 'manual' on how to establish or keep a relationship going.

That's what make people unique. We are different from one and other. What might interest one person will leave somebody else totally blank.

What turns on one might be a turn off to someone else.

Now what prompted all this sociological diatribe? Because believe me, it was not very easy for me to come out with these smart thoughts.

There is a so called profession by the name of relationship expert. These people claim they know what drives us humans and how to avoid life's emotional potholes and navigate the labyrinth of love. (Wow!)

They claim to have the answer to all the mysteries of dating and maintaining relationships.

These claims are just as empty as the weatherman's claims that they know what kind of weather we can expect.

Relationship experts offer advice on TV, radio in magazines and probably in private counselings. Naturally all these are for fees, so it seems this is another money making service with absolutely no responsibility.

It is money making for the provider and not for the providee.

As they always say: it's a good country America!

But I still think the club (not the golf club) was a better way! Love could come later.

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